Weddings And Honeymoons

Went on for thousands of miles

I know this goes against earlier statements of no-one else to impress but yourself, but these are the lessons we learn.....

Due to the fact that i very recently got married, i have come to the realization that even when you go against everyone else's wishes and expectations, there is still a light at the end of the tunnel!

I thought getting married was going to be simple.......fun........... individual........romantic......refreshing.......you know what it was like? Frustrating, anxiety driven, closing, rushed, loving, supportive and mean.

I know it sounds like I didn't enjoy it, but i did, to a point.

I enjoy the fact that i married the love of my life. I love that i have a beautiful extended family. I love that i really do feel independent. But i didn't enjoy, the trying to please others, listening to everyones ''opinions" Everyone's expectations, who can not sit where, what people don't like which, people thinking that it is their wedding and the fact that it went so quick that i don't remember a lot of it, and some people, although have been in your life for a long time, simply are not invited. And as a result, took it to heart and no longer feel like talking to us! Interesting..........Weddings do funny things to people..........

Time to Stop.

Never the less Hubby and I were looking forward to the honeymoon. Did i mention that Hubby thought it was romantic to "go with the flow" "take us where the road leads"

You know what? It actually was the best holiday i ever had.

The hardest thing that i find in my life for me to do is to take time to do nothing. sit. do. nothing.

And thats exactly what we did. We watched every sunset, drove for thousands of kilometers, stopped along highways and looked and every wildflower in the area. Took thousands of photos.  love photos. Never took the time to take them before.

Have come back from Honeymoon and Wedding a better person. I laugh more, sleep more, take more photos, and appreciate the simple things. 

Lesson Learnt.

My favourite

Who Are You Trying To Impress?

You own yourself completely. 

Over the years i have heard so much conflicting information about how i should ..

1. Trust people (But hold yourself a step away just so you don't get hurt)
2. Look after people how you would like to be treated (But don't be Co-Dependant) 
3. Accept yourself and love yourself for the way you are ( But you might want to lose a few kilos, because your cant accept the way you look right now!) 
4. Listen to advice given, do your research ( But if you don't listen to MY advice then your doing it the wrong way)
5. Hold your friends close but your enemy's closer ( Even though all your doing is hurting YOURSELF by being around people who bring down your soul ) 
6. Give a relationship 50% and your partner or friend will give 50% ( In some relationships, even in family, there is ALWAYS one person who comes more then 50% and the other less) ... I could go on and on, but you get the point.

What i have learnt it that there is only ONE person who you can trust completely, look after and get the same in return, love wholely and completely without outside judgement, accept information from and feel like it sits right with you, give your soul the power to feel whole and balanced without anxiety, give 100% without feeling like your the only one working for the relationship to work.

That ONE person is YOU.

You need to know what YOUR morals and beliefs are, and what makes you FEEL good.
If you love the outdoors, and being outside makes you feel alive and energized, then you could research ANYTHING on the outdoors, be it nature, fitness, animals, planets, ANYTHING. Just do it because you want to and it makes you feel good. Because the only person you have to answer to is YOU.